Walked into a lunch discussion group the other day and it was all getting a bit touchy feely.  My initial recoil from the shock of hearing male colleagues delving into their emotional responses to situations surprised me.  I never quite realised how easily I conformed to the stereotypical Englishman.  In the name of personal development this on the couch session had evolved from studying Emotional Intelligence, a book exploring the value of being able to relate to emotions, both personal and of others.  On this basis, here we were discussing someone’s belief their receding hairline stems from rubbing their forehead in worry, how another manages his anxiety and tactics for dealing with emotional turbulence in relationships.  Interesting to see we were each predominantly affected by different emotions.  Once I managed to open up I was equally surprised to find nobody else related to my bête-noir, melancholy.  Until it was expressed in terms of the Sunday afternoon blues!

Amateur psychology aside, spending an hour bonding over enriching material is a brilliant opportunity to tackle interesting issues that the day job can get in the way of.  Most useful of all may simply be the time spent together overcoming barriers that often hinder developing meaningful working relationships.  Watch this space.


About @ngela

Unexpected Consequences is a blog by Angela Crowther, a young engineer working in the Built Environment. Currently supported by the Royal Academy of Engineering and UKRC's Ingenious program the blog’s aim is to raise awareness of all the exciting opportunities the world of engineering has to offer to hopefully stimulate others into joining the industry.
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2 Responses to Lunchbox

  1. Ruth Wilson says:

    Hi Angela – interesting! Are these your fellow engineers? I think a common image of the engineer is hard hats and hearts. Would love to hear more about the secret and powerful influence of emotional intelligence…

    • @ngela says:

      I love the image of hard hats and hearts. It definitely resonates.

      Unfortunately it seems there is no holy grail to be uncovered when considering emotional intelligence. Whilst much of the subject seems to be stating the obvious, reading and discussing the issue has definitely brought it to the forefront of our awareness. It’s also fascinating to discover a little about the science behind our emotions and therefore, how out of our control they often are.

      Since the sessions, I definitely seem to be considering different perspectives more frequently and the connotations often related to certain actions. Only time will tell if this leads me to change certain aspects of my comportment. Our Lunchbox group are intending to sit on what we have learnt for a while, and then reintroduce the subject from the more practical viewpoint of application in the workplace. Watch this space…

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